She said yes! You smiled with relief and excitement. However, that’s only the beginning of the massive steps towards organising your special day. As a groom-to-be, you don’t have to feel left out of the wedding planning process. Getting involved is a great way to share the responsibilities and reduce stress for both of you.
Sharing is caring. And it is best to start your wedding journey as you mean to continue in your married life. So, here are 11 things you can do to help the planning process run a little smoother…
1. Shout out the good news
You’re now engaged. The excitement is too much to keep to yourself and you want to shout out the good news to the world. Instead of doing the usual rounds of phone calls or social media sharing, why not do something different. Arrange a dinner party for close family and friends to celebrate your upcoming marriage. This is much more intimate and it’s an opportunity to choose your groomsmen at the same time.
2. Visit venues and choose one
Talk to an experienced wedding planner to get some ideas about the best type of venue for you. This is an important part of the wedding and you should book it as early as possible. It’s a joint venture for you both. Before you go venue hunting, decide if you prefer a cosy barn, a luxury country mansion, a secluded beach abroad, an elegant castle or a swanky restaurant. The venue should match your vision and be within the agreed budget. When choosing, consider your wedding theme and the number of guests, this will ensure you give them an unforgettable experience.
3. Create an invitation list
Once the venue is booked for your wedding, you can think about sending out invitations to family, friends, neighbours and work colleagues. Bear in mind that this isn’t so straightforward. You have to consider wordings, style, design even the colour of the cards to match your wedding theme. Regarding timing, send the invitations 10 to 12 weeks before the wedding or sooner if you’re marrying abroad. Remind guests by sending personalised save the date notes followed by the real invitations. Remember to ask for RSVP as confirmation of the number of guests.
4. Buy the wedding ring
This is where loving partnership comes into play. Both of you decide on the type of wedding band you want, then go and buy it. Your ring is also a family heirloom, a treasure for the rest of your life as husband and wife and beyond. Choose carefully and think ahead. Wedding rings carry delightful memories to cherish as you mature and build wonderful years together.
5. Delegate tasks to the groomsmen
Your best man will be your rock throughout your wedding preparations and after married life. Pick someone you can trust and who knows you extremely well. And, the other groomsmen are there to share the responsibilities leading up to the big day. Meet up often to discuss, plan and share ideas. Their support and input, help cuts wedding planning stress.
6. Hire or buy the groomsmen suits
Think about wedding attire and whether to buy or hire. It’s your choice but hiring might work out cheaper. Lots of decisions to make. Will it be formal, a tux or a suit? What about colour schemes, ties, cravats or bow ties? Swagger and Swoon have a free online guide to help you decide on neckwear. Choose a suitable time for you and the groomsmen to book in for one or more fitting sessions.
7. Don’t forget the speech
It’s better to come prepared than face the crowd with a blank mind during your reception party. You might memorise what you plan to say, but if nerves kick in, it’s easy for everything to disappear from your mind. To avoid embarrassment, plan your speech well in advance. Keep it short and sweet. And remember to include the special people who worked hard to make your day go smoothly.
Finally, after you’re back from your honeymoon, send thank you notes to family, friends and especially your new in-laws, for attending your wedding and supporting you. Though, remember to send endless love notes to your beautiful wife throughout your married life. Remind her how wonderful she is and how lucky you are to have her as your wife. In return, she will treat you like her special prince.
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